A 3yr old's confession: I saw a threesome

Hmmmmmm….

As the children’s day was wrapping up, I just found myself reminiscing about some of my interesting childhood memories.

Talking of memories, I have loads of them to choose from both the good, the bad and the ugly and even the bizarre like I am about to share today hoping we all learn from it.

Isn’t it amazing that there are some events that can’t just be erased from our memories, and this might be due to the intensity of the emotions invoked as they occurred. Either extreme joy, sadness, anger “wonderment “or even shame.

Now my mum, while raising me was a single parent and I call her single parent with class, she’s one not because she chose to, but because life has a way of throwing our lives off balance and without a fair reason.

 And I referred to her situation as one with class and dignity because I was enrolled in the best of schools and at least having the basic and even occasional luxuries.

It happened one day, some 37 years ago that someone I can’t even now place a face on, (probably a neighbor or one of those area aunties that like carrying people’s babies to their own houses and staying with them the whole day or half of the day, while the mothers be like ‘thank God I can finally have some time for my chores before this child is returned!’)

Mothers beware!!!

It was in a scenario like that at age 3 that I had my first bizarre experience.

Let me call her Aunty Kuku. Aunty Kuku came to pick me along with her boyfriend for an outing. Her boyfriend took her on a driving lesson and thereafter we all ended up in her one room apartment. Here was her boyfriend’s friend already in her apartment. I was told to sleep and when I was thought to be peacefully sleeping, the unbelievable started happening.

And in my peaceful slumber some ‘funnily horrific’ sounds woke me up to the most bizarre sight I’ve ever seen in my young life which I later got to understand 2years ago that, that what’s called a threesome!!! (wetin be threesome ooo?!) please ask goggle.

Please, this is not a fable but real life experience of a three-year-old. It happened in Zaria in the early 80s, to think that such depravities existed even back then…

My little brain and sense told me to lie back and pretend to be asleep. I must have watched them secretly for about thirty minutes before I slept off. I was peacefully returned to my home but in a confused state of mind with a disturbing graphic memory of that event that has failed to fade till date.

Now, does this event have its consequences? Yes, it does, but thank God for the blood of Jesus Christ.

Parents should be mindful of whom their kids are with per time. That child minder could be a depraved child molester. That uncle /aunty could be an accomplished Pedophile.

I see so many parents, especially mothers today, in the name of career, business or trying to make ends meet abandoning their children to strangers or people they have little or no information about, to the detriment of that child’s safety/well-being.

You may ask me that how do we now cope, knowing that evil is resident in our days?

I’ll suggest that the issue of who to leave our minors with should not be handled with levity, hence should be treated with all seriousness, prayers, research and discernment.

If your office is not baby friendly, then get a licensed crèche that has passed your personal checklist of safety, hygiene, care and good testimony.

For those of us with toddlers we should be mindful of the people our toddler spends time with especially if they are the clingy type. If it’s not very necessary, don’t leave your child out of your sight.

I’ve seen people going to work with their babysitters, it’s better to be too careful than sorry.

For those of us with older children, education is key. Don’t limit their knowledge to A, B, C, 123.  But rather give them the basic sex education that will enlighten them on how to take precautions because of predators everywhere now. Make them free enough to be able to open up to you in case of an abuse and never shut them up when they are communicating with you.

Let them know the no go areas as well as the danger signs. Any straying hands on their sensitive /private organs like mouth, armpit, genitals, breasts etc should be reported.

We can’t all as parents be 100% perfect at all times but through prayers, getting equipped (parenting books and seminars) vigilance, responsibility we will all get there.

Happy children’s day to all lovely, homeless, vulnerable, abused, and unwanted children out there.

Children are God’s gift and should be treated as one. ❤❤

Temitope Alonge

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