Between Parenting Styles, Depression & Suicide (I)

A few days ago, amidst experts like Larry Lawal- with over 35years experience in treatment of mental disorders and emotional challenges in the public and private mental health institutions in the Houston area of Texas, and Dr. Afshana Haque- a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) with a specialization in Neurofeedback and an Assistant professor at the University of Houston-Clear Lake, I was invited to be part of the panelist on a trending topic: Depression and Suicide- A generation on the Edge. Is Your Family Safe? Considering the caliber of these great practitioners and scholars, I was nervous and almost turned down the invite. In any case, the adventurer in me took over and I gave a yes and guess what?

It was a great learning, sharing and networking experience.

Often times, we erroneously believe that people who have mental illnesses are just crazy, have a personality weakness or character flaw and could just snap out of it if they tried hard enough. That seeking help or being treated for it means an individual has in some way failed or is weak. Fact is that a serious mental illness cannot be willed away. Ignoring the problem does not make it away either. It takes courage to seek professional help.

We also erroneously believe that depression and other illnesses such as anxiety disorders do not affect children or adolescents and any problems they have are just a part of growing up. Fact: children and adolescents can develop severe mental illness. Left untreated, these problems get worse.
Research has shown that there are genetic and biological causes of mental disorders and these can be treated effectively.

 

 

To answer this question, it is important we understand the 3 fundamental parenting styles: Autocratic/Authoritarian, Permissive/Indulgent and Authoritative/Authentic parenting styles.

Authoritarian parenting:

In this style of parenting, children are expected to follow the strict commands established by their parents. Consequences of such failures result in the form of reprimands. Authoritarian parents fail to clarify the reasoning behind such rules. Such parents are not approachable to their children and have great demands. These parents are obedience and status-oriented and expect their orders to be obeyed without expectations. Coercive force like guilt, flogging, threats, punishment, sarcasm, criticism, intimidation, humiliation, withdrawal of love, bribes and other similar tools are used to control and manipulate the kids to get them to so what they (parents) want. All of these methods dampen the child’s spirit, self-esteem and self-confidence as they motivate from a place of fear rather than love. The result is that the child either becomes compliant or rebellious and resentful. Sadness, insomnia, self blame or having an obsessive negative self focus, poor interpersonal skills, under achievement in school, social withdrawal, excessive crying, loss of appetite, low energy, feelings of inadequacy and other passive behavior which are all underlying symptoms of an unhealthy mental well-being may become inevitable.

Permissive Parenting:

This is also called indulgent parenting. Parents with this style do not have much demand to make of their children. They do not teach their children the skills they need to live a fulfilled life. Permissive parenting may take the form of not caring say about a child’s grades, what time he gets home, who his friends are etc. It makes the child feel like you don’t care, even when you do, and as a result, she may seek care and concern from other people. This opens the door for submitting to peer influence and its antecedent risk of youthful exuberance. There are many teenage girls who are hungry for affection that they end up pregnant! This when not properly managed, may give way to shame, blame, sadness, hopelessness and other depressive tendencies.

Permissive parents usually give in when the situation calls for firmness. Since the expectations of maturity and self-control are little; these parents hardly discipline their children.
It is interesting to note that children do not really like to be permitted to misbehave. What they want, even though they seem to want us to think otherwise from their rebellion, is obvious guidance, limits and affection.
Sometimes, we parents are permissive because we do not want to deal with conflict and want to maintain the status of ‘friends’ with our children irrespective of the situation.
Children’s mistakes provide opportunities for many lessons on how to do things differently. When we let mistakes go unnoticed or do not deal with them directly, we deprive our children of valuable information to make better decisions in the future. When we let our children do what they want, we avoid conflict at the moment and in the long run, we create a bigger problem which we’ll have to deal with- when they get into the real world and see that life isn’t a bed of roses and everything isn’t always in accordance to their whims and caprices or they are under achieving, depression, suicidal tendencies, anxiety disorders etc cannot be overruled. Such disregard from parents may not be intentional; it’s the effect of permissive parenting.
(To be continued)

0 Thoughts to “Between Parenting Styles, Depression & Suicide (I)”

  1. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Thanks a lot! An abundance of data!

    viagra discount retail viagra medication prescription levitra cialis prop
    viagra without a doctor prescription
    viagra contraindications enalapril – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  2. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You said it nicely..

    cost of cialis vs viagra viagra is made with
    cheap viagra
    receptfritt viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  3. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Seriously loads of beneficial info.

    viagra in a creme levitra compared to viagra
    viagra for women
    does viagra extend performance – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  4. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You actually explained this exceptionally well.

    coumadin vs viagra condoms and viagra government soldiers
    viagra online
    most reliable generic viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  5. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put. Thank you!

    viagra and its origins funniest viagra videos
    viagra online
    does viagra prevent premature ejacuations – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  6. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put, Many thanks.

    i have viagra will not stay hard w viagra
    viagra 100mg
    effects of viagra on teenren – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  7. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Beneficial information. Thank you!

    viagra delayed ejaculation pfizer logo viagra
    buy viagra
    submit a site viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  8. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Truly lots of fantastic data.

    cheap source viagra viagra lowest price
    viagra for women
    how often can i take viagra – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  9. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You actually said that exceptionally well.

    viagra softtabs fast u 52892 viagra
    generic viagra
    affects of viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  10. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Regards. Ample postings.

    viagra negotiation tool does viagra make you larger
    viagra without a doctor prescription
    acive ingredient in viagra – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  11. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Kudos! Loads of knowledge.

    why is viagra so expensive comparison viagra levitra cialis
    viagra without a doctor prescription
    viagra online shop – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  12. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Point clearly regarded.!

    viagra and brain tumors buy viagra sale
    buy generic viagra
    viagra nation times online – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  13. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Truly all kinds of very good information!

    knox news viagra substitute viagra after dinner
    generic viagra 100mg
    best deals on cialis viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  14. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You actually suggested that perfectly!

    viagra mail order india 3 citrate generic sildenafil viagra
    generic viagra
    before and after photos using viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  15. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put, Cheers.

    viagra galloway find sites search viagra
    cheap viagra
    how much viagra should you take – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  16. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Superb postings, Thank you.

    viagra gel jelly viagra soft tabs canada
    viagra pills
    viagra risks – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  17. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Amazing plenty of good information!

    viagra milligrams real viagra without a perscription
    generic viagra 100mg
    viagra makes me light headed – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  18. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You made your stand extremely effectively..

    women’s natural viagra viagra symtpms
    buy viagra online
    private label herbal viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  19. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    With thanks, Loads of data.

    access rx viagra viagra find edinburgh search pages
    generic viagra
    pornstars on viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  20. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Fantastic postings. With thanks.

    generic levitra celias viagra kamagra snd viagra
    viagra without a doctor prescription
    better than viagra – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  21. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Kudos! Quite a lot of material.

    robin williams on viagra vision problems resulting from viagra
    generic viagra online
    cialis levitra viagra comparison – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  22. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Very well voiced genuinely. !

    viagra homeopathic online generic viagra overnight
    viagra for women
    viagra and peyronie’s – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  23. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Effectively spoken indeed! !

    viagra prior to mountain climbing viagra save chrismas
    viagra for sale uk
    viagra infidelity studies – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  24. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Cheers, I appreciate this!

    cheap viagra order viagra party drug
    generic viagra 100mg
    lawsuits on viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  25. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Superb write ups. Thanks!

    viagra online pharmacy generic roy d mercer and viagra
    viagra for women
    matt lauer as the amazons viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  26. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put. Thanks a lot.

    viagra search edinburgh ago hours effectiveness of viagra
    generic viagra 100mg
    viagra aid – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  27. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Very well voiced indeed. .

    india generic viagra legal edinburgh uk viagra search find posted
    viagra generic
    female viagra herb – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  28. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put, Thanks a lot.

    female equivalent to viagra medicare b benefit viagra
    viagra 100mg
    genuine viagra manufacturers – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  29. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You made your position extremely clearly.!

    tricare viagra what is viagra professional
    viagra without a doctor prescription
    viagra hat – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  30. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put. Thank you!

    viagra time sensitive viagra vitamins
    generic viagra 100mg
    viagra edinburgh pages find free information – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  31. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put, Cheers.

    viagra online cheap viagra migraine
    viagra generic
    blood clots viagra mayo clinic – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  32. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You revealed this terrifically.

    cheap genaric viagra kamagra directions for viagra use
    viagra without a doctors prescription
    how frequently can you take viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  33. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Many thanks. I enjoy this.

    clinic viagra prescriptions charlotte nc how viagra affect women
    viagra for women
    provigil viagra interaction – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  34. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Fine stuff. Regards.

    viagra and cannabis herbal source of viagra
    buy viagra online
    famale viagra – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  35. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Cheers, Lots of stuff.

    drugs giant viagra pill cialis men viagra multiple erections
    buy viagra online
    viagra rebate – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  36. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You made your position quite nicely.!

    viagra suppositories side effects can viagra affect the prostate gland
    viagra for sale uk
    poker viagra – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  37. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You’ve made your position quite effectively..

    cocaine interaction with viagra articles on viagra
    viagra pills
    floater eye problems and viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  38. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Very well expressed indeed. .

    re viagra cialis levitra kamagra viagra sildenafil site
    generic viagra
    generic viagra warnings – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  39. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Truly a lot of valuable data.

    viagra on line order the long and difficult 13-year viagra
    viagra generic
    feedblitz news edinburgh pages viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  40. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Thank you. A lot of stuff.

    viagra blood in urine where to buy viagra in beijing
    generic viagra 100mg
    viagra diarrhea – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  41. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You have made your position pretty clearly..

    viagra generic date recommended viagra dose
    viagra for sale uk
    lowest price for viagra online – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  42. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Appreciate it! Plenty of tips!

    viagra demonstration viagra substitutes over the counter
    viagra generic
    pumkin pie vs viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  43. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    With thanks, Valuable stuff.

    discount viagra discount viagra url review viagra super activity
    viagra online
    what if woman takes viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  44. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Fantastic information. Thanks.

    canadain online pharmacies viagra viagra colonoscopy
    viagra generic
    will viagra hurt me – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  45. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You made the point.

    effective time for viagra buy line viagra
    viagra online
    viagra history wikipedia – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  46. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    This is nicely expressed! .

    generic viagra softtabs viagra vs cialis online
    generic viagra online
    viagra canadian patent expiration – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  47. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    With thanks! Useful information!

    viagra for paraplegic porn viagra
    buy viagra
    purchase viagra online consultation – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  48. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You suggested this superbly.

    everyday viagra dosage viagra affects
    buy generic viagra
    one dollar viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  49. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You have made the point!

    viagra stanozolol side effect viagra
    generic viagra
    canada drugstores americans viagra border – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  50. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Thanks. I value it.

    jual viagra kl iguana viagra
    viagra generic
    how do i used viagra – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  51. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Amazing stuff, Many thanks!

    viagra home viagra boring pages search edinburgh find
    viagra generic
    what to expect when using viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  52. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Awesome forum posts, Appreciate it!

    viagra super force on line prescription for viagra
    viagra 100mg
    viagra withour prescription – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  53. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Superb material, Many thanks.

    viagra sweatshop powered by drupal node viagra
    viagra without a doctors prescription
    effects of taking viagra without ed – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  54. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You have made your point!

    india generic viagra viagra for her
    generic viagra 100mg
    viagra risk stroke – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  55. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put. Kudos!

    buy viagra no prescription the effects of viagra on women
    generic viagra
    viagra package insert – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  56. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely voiced of course. !

    buying viagra online viagra 50mg tablet cost cvs
    viagra pills
    nitric oxide viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  57. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    You mentioned it really well!

    eli lily viagra patent viagra generique
    viagra online
    maryland cialis tadalafil viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  58. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Whoa quite a lot of very good facts!

    viagra lymphoma contraindicated viagra from overseas
    generic viagra online
    cialis dysfunction erectile levitra viagra – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  59. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put. Thanks!

    buy viagra discrete uk blood pressure medication and viagra
    buy viagra online
    viagra pill comparisons – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  60. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Great forum posts. Thanks a lot!

    common viagra dose pfizer fights fake viagra with rfid
    generic viagra online
    viagra milligrams – https://genericviagrarcp.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  61. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Nicely put, With thanks!

    pornstars using viagra first viagra
    cheap viagra
    viagra commercials wild thing – https://genericviagrantx.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

  62. Your comment is awaiting moderation.

    Thanks, Loads of facts.

    discount viagra cialis viagra safe for trying to conceive
    viagra without a doctors prescription
    increasing dosage of viagra – https://genericviagramsl.com

    Davidblima
    TerenceHig
    Victorhit

Leave a Comment