A few days ago, amidst experts like Larry Lawal- with over 35years experience in treatment of mental disorders and emotional challenges in the public and private mental health institutions in the Houston area of Texas, and Dr. Afshana Haque- a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) with a specialization in Neurofeedback and an Assistant…
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Talent, Hardwork & the Holiday When I received this message a few weeks ago, I knew that the time would soon be ripe to share it in this column… and what better time than now that our children are in the holiday mode? Reflect, Retrack, Respond. I will tell you a story about Talent, Hardwork…
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Examination Malpractice? The much dreaded physics exams was only hours away. Kunle was restless. He doubted if he knew enough to excel. His mind started to race. He was beginning to pant at the thought flying through his mind. Just this one time. Otherwise, how else? He convinced himself. As the examination papers were served…
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I have been running series of interviews lately for a home support staff. With my accumulating work load and schedule and with children in a boarding school, I needed some sort of assistance. My agent finally called me last week Friday for a seemingly qualified candidate. As we chatted, I asked a few questions…
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Borrowing from the words of the Irish poem popularized by our own Chinua Achebe: Things (society) fall apart and the center (families) cannot hold. Mere anarchy is loosed upon the land… I know of a young lady, about 15 years of age. She has been sick since she was 3 years old. The sickness comes…
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Hmmmmmm…. As the children’s day was wrapping up, I just found myself reminiscing about some of my interesting childhood memories. Talking of memories, I have loads of them to choose from both the good, the bad and the ugly and even the bizarre like I am about to share today hoping we all learn from…
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It was only 6:19 in the morning and Arike was all set for school. “Should I get baba Driver to take me?” School being less than 20mins away, I encouraged her to use up the gained time on something productive. After all, baba Driver won’t be ready at this time and it wouldn’t add up…
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“Do we really have to do this” “Are you crying” “Yes, I am” “But why?” “I just couldn’t hold back the tears as I watched her being whisked away by the flight attendant with tears trickling down her gentle face” The past few days counting down to resumption hadn’t been easy. As in, Apinke would…
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If you’re like most parents, you’d choose having fun with your children rather than those feelings of frustration and guilt that arise from sibling fights and rivalry. In as much as you may not totally be able to eliminate the fight, how about strategies to make your kids become more cooperative, self-sufficient, empowered and able…
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“I have the F seat” “No, I do!” “You don’t, I do!” “Ok, I got here first” “It doesn’t matter, check your boarding pass, you’ll see it’s my name” “No!” I came in behind the girls and quietly slipped into my seat… despite the uncomfortable prying eyes of the gentleman on the aisle seat next…
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A few days ago, amidst experts like Larry Lawal- with over 35years experience in treatment of mental disorders and emotional challenges in the public and private mental health institutions in the Houston area of Texas, and Dr. Afshana Haque- a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) with a specialization in Neurofeedback and an Assistant…
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Talent, Hardwork & the Holiday When I received this message a few weeks ago, I knew that the time would soon be ripe to share it in this column… and what better time than now that our children are in the holiday mode? Reflect, Retrack, Respond. I will tell you a story about Talent, Hardwork…
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I have been running series of interviews lately for a home support staff. With my accumulating work load and schedule and with children in a boarding school, I needed some sort of assistance. My agent finally called me last week Friday for a seemingly qualified candidate. As we chatted, I asked a few questions…
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“Good girl!” “You got 10/10! That’s my smart boy!” “I love your picture!’ “Good job” “You are awesome!” You’re the best! These comments sound positive but they’re simply external praise, external judgement. What ends up happening is the child being praised continues to perform the behaviour because it pleases the adult. I’m sure you’re quite…
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