Examination Malpractice? The much dreaded physics exams was only hours away. Kunle was restless. He doubted if he knew enough to excel. His mind started to race. He was beginning to pant at the thought flying through his mind. Just this one time. Otherwise, how else? He convinced himself. As the examination papers were served…
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Borrowing from the words of the Irish poem popularized by our own Chinua Achebe: Things (society) fall apart and the center (families) cannot hold. Mere anarchy is loosed upon the land… I know of a young lady, about 15 years of age. She has been sick since she was 3 years old. The sickness comes…
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“I have the F seat” “No, I do!” “You don’t, I do!” “Ok, I got here first” “It doesn’t matter, check your boarding pass, you’ll see it’s my name” “No!” I came in behind the girls and quietly slipped into my seat… despite the uncomfortable prying eyes of the gentleman on the aisle seat next…
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When Your Child is Out of Control I had an interview session over the weekend. One of the questions that was put up to me was: How do you handle frustrating behaviours from your child? You know, those kind of behaviour that never give you an alert! They just happen! Case study: Have you ever…
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Chelsea’s video is tough, real heart-wrenching and spirit-dampening. Since its release on December 7, it has gone viral and the last time I checked, it had hit over 300,000 views. The story of Chelsea is that of a strong mother. A mum who chose justice over sentiments, courage over silence and healing over hurt. It…
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Why do I feel guilty or afraid when I consider setting boundaries? What are legitimate boundaries? Can I set limits and still be a loving person? How do I respond to someone who wants my time, love, energy or money more than I am willing to give? Aren’t boundaries selfish? Setting boundaries is a healthy…
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In today’s world, children are influenced by knowledge from various sources, as a result of this, parents are faced with the challenge on how to raise good children in today’s world. The following are actionable tips you can use to boost your parenting and surmount these challenges;
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This is a throwback post on practical steps you can take to make your child tell you more. In today’s living, it has become unquestionably easy to spend time with your family and not talk at all. Many parents and kids are often attached to TVs, cell phones, iPads, iPods etc so much that, even…
Read MoreMum in a Dilemma! My first child clocks 10 in a few months time, and I am perplexed as to what secondary school to enroll her in, Day or Boarding school? I have heard horrid tales of happenings in boarding house that made me skeptical about it, but at the same time i need her…
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A very embarrassing moment happened to me whilst my friend was visiting. My toddler son spilled his drink on the floor tiles and I was just about to yell, when my 5yrs old daughter patted my shoulder and said to me, mum Don’t yell! Here is the mop. Just clean it up, don’t yell! I…
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A few days ago, amidst experts like Larry Lawal- with over 35years experience in treatment of mental disorders and emotional challenges in the public and private mental health institutions in the Houston area of Texas, and Dr. Afshana Haque- a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) with a specialization in Neurofeedback and an Assistant…
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Talent, Hardwork & the Holiday When I received this message a few weeks ago, I knew that the time would soon be ripe to share it in this column… and what better time than now that our children are in the holiday mode? Reflect, Retrack, Respond. I will tell you a story about Talent, Hardwork…
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I have been running series of interviews lately for a home support staff. With my accumulating work load and schedule and with children in a boarding school, I needed some sort of assistance. My agent finally called me last week Friday for a seemingly qualified candidate. As we chatted, I asked a few questions…
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“Good girl!” “You got 10/10! That’s my smart boy!” “I love your picture!’ “Good job” “You are awesome!” You’re the best! These comments sound positive but they’re simply external praise, external judgement. What ends up happening is the child being praised continues to perform the behaviour because it pleases the adult. I’m sure you’re quite…
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