I have been running series of interviews lately for a home support staff. With my accumulating work load and schedule and with children in a boarding school, I needed some sort of assistance. My agent finally called me last week Friday for a seemingly qualified candidate. As we chatted, I asked a few questions…
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“Good girl!” “You got 10/10! That’s my smart boy!” “I love your picture!’ “Good job” “You are awesome!” You’re the best! These comments sound positive but they’re simply external praise, external judgement. What ends up happening is the child being praised continues to perform the behaviour because it pleases the adult. I’m sure you’re quite…
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It was only 6:19 in the morning and Arike was all set for school. “Should I get baba Driver to take me?” School being less than 20mins away, I encouraged her to use up the gained time on something productive. After all, baba Driver won’t be ready at this time and it wouldn’t add up…
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Chelsea’s video is tough, real heart-wrenching and spirit-dampening. Since its release on December 7, it has gone viral and the last time I checked, it had hit over 300,000 views. The story of Chelsea is that of a strong mother. A mum who chose justice over sentiments, courage over silence and healing over hurt. It…
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In today’s world, children are influenced by knowledge from various sources, as a result of this, parents are faced with the challenge on how to raise good children in today’s world. The following are actionable tips you can use to boost your parenting and surmount these challenges;
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As I scrolled fast past the long posts, I noticed the alluring comments that followed. Despite, I choose not to scroll back in the moment to the article that generated all the commotion. Shortly after, I kept on getting a particular post from almost all my personal peeps. Curiosity got the better of me-…
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Six-year-old Adam sheepishly strolls into mum’s bedroom with crumbs clinging to his lips. Mom interrogates, “did you go take a biscuit?” Adam smiles, eyes opened and refute mom’s confrontation. “Stop lying, Adam! I see those crumbs on your mouth. Now kneel down there until you are ready, to tell the truth, young man. When are…
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This is a throwback post on practical steps you can take to make your child tell you more. In today’s living, it has become unquestionably easy to spend time with your family and not talk at all. Many parents and kids are often attached to TVs, cell phones, iPads, iPods etc so much that, even…
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A very embarrassing moment happened to me whilst my friend was visiting. My toddler son spilled his drink on the floor tiles and I was just about to yell, when my 5yrs old daughter patted my shoulder and said to me, mum Don’t yell! Here is the mop. Just clean it up, don’t yell! I…
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Is this terribly wrong? Or simply overreaction from my spouse? Dear Guided Beginnings fam, My husband is an exemplary and responsible father who doesn’t hesitate to go to any legal length to make his family happy, however, behind all his good intentions and action, I have the feeling that he overreacts and act old school-ish…
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A few days ago, amidst experts like Larry Lawal- with over 35years experience in treatment of mental disorders and emotional challenges in the public and private mental health institutions in the Houston area of Texas, and Dr. Afshana Haque- a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) with a specialization in Neurofeedback and an Assistant…
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Talent, Hardwork & the Holiday When I received this message a few weeks ago, I knew that the time would soon be ripe to share it in this column… and what better time than now that our children are in the holiday mode? Reflect, Retrack, Respond. I will tell you a story about Talent, Hardwork…
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I have been running series of interviews lately for a home support staff. With my accumulating work load and schedule and with children in a boarding school, I needed some sort of assistance. My agent finally called me last week Friday for a seemingly qualified candidate. As we chatted, I asked a few questions…
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“Good girl!” “You got 10/10! That’s my smart boy!” “I love your picture!’ “Good job” “You are awesome!” You’re the best! These comments sound positive but they’re simply external praise, external judgement. What ends up happening is the child being praised continues to perform the behaviour because it pleases the adult. I’m sure you’re quite…
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