“Good girl!” “You got 10/10! That’s my smart boy!” “I love your picture!’ “Good job” “You are awesome!” You’re the best! These comments sound positive but they’re simply external praise, external judgement. What ends up happening is the child being praised continues to perform the behaviour because it pleases the adult. I’m sure you’re quite…
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“Do we really have to do this” “Are you crying” “Yes, I am” “But why?” “I just couldn’t hold back the tears as I watched her being whisked away by the flight attendant with tears trickling down her gentle face” The past few days counting down to resumption hadn’t been easy. As in, Apinke would…
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A few days ago, amidst experts like Larry Lawal- with over 35years experience in treatment of mental disorders and emotional challenges in the public and private mental health institutions in the Houston area of Texas, and Dr. Afshana Haque- a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Supervisor (LMFT-S) with a specialization in Neurofeedback and an Assistant…
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Talent, Hardwork & the Holiday When I received this message a few weeks ago, I knew that the time would soon be ripe to share it in this column… and what better time than now that our children are in the holiday mode? Reflect, Retrack, Respond. I will tell you a story about Talent, Hardwork…
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I have been running series of interviews lately for a home support staff. With my accumulating work load and schedule and with children in a boarding school, I needed some sort of assistance. My agent finally called me last week Friday for a seemingly qualified candidate. As we chatted, I asked a few questions…
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“Good girl!” “You got 10/10! That’s my smart boy!” “I love your picture!’ “Good job” “You are awesome!” You’re the best! These comments sound positive but they’re simply external praise, external judgement. What ends up happening is the child being praised continues to perform the behaviour because it pleases the adult. I’m sure you’re quite…
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